Nagging
Nagging
Requesting or asking your partner to do something is one thing, but asking repeated would probably constitute nagging. Nagging can be irritating for both people involved and both can feel frustrated with the situation. It is best to clearly communicate to your partner only once if you have a problem or concern. See how they respond to your feelings and listen to what they say.
Try to always be reasonable with your husband or wife when making a request. However, if you are on the receiving end of a nagging partner, then express your frustration and annoyance in a calm verbal manner to your partner. The key is not to raise your voice but to stay calm. Your partner will be more responsive to you if you communicate in a steady and non-aggressive tone of voice. Certainly, when you are frustrated this may take a lot of will power, but it will pay off in the long run if you can achieve it.
Nobody wants to feel pressured into doing a task such as cleaning the dishes or washing the car. But if the worst situation arises and neither of you want to step up to the plate, then being the bigger person yourself and actually accomplishing the requested task may be the only option. If you do take this route then it will help to diffuse the situation. However, you can still voice your concern to your partner. If the nagging occurred over household chores for example, then perhaps you could both come to a solution together. For example, creating a weekly chores sheet to follow could solve the issue.
Nagging can remind one of their parents and the hierarchy of the ‘parent-child’ relationship. This is not an attractive trait to possess in a relationship where both parties should feel like equals. Therefore, in a couple the relationship should be one of equality and fairness. Be the voice of reason and not the voice of your parents!