Forget Control

In a relationship you can of course only control your own actions and thoughts. You cannot control the actions of your partner. (As many times as you may wish that they would pick up dirty towels from the floor or vacuum once in awhile!) However, it can be difficult for some people when they move in with a partner for the first time to adjust. This is because one needs to regulate their own lifestyle to the way that their other half lives. 

Your husband or wife’s attitudes towards cleanliness or tidiness for example may be very different to yours. However, you need to both find a common ground to move forwards as this will make you both happier. So do not think about control and instead think about balancing your actions by being more of a partnership and a team.